Things That Make You Happy

It is finally the end of Term 2, and the end of a long Semester 1. With everything that has happened, I am glad to finally have a break. Working for 23 weeks, without a proper rest, has had me drained and emotionally, physically, mentally and in some ways spiritually tired.

This level of exhaustion made me realize that things need to change and I need to be more proactive in managing my emotions and energy.

Halfway through Term 2, at my lowest, I made a list of hobbies and activities I wanted to do but held myself back from. Things that made me happy but I pushed aside because of reluctance.

I had a look at the excuses, and realized that the only one holding me back was myself. The only one who held the keys to my happiness was myself.

Upon that realization, I gave myself permission and I made a promise to myself – to do more that makes me happy.

Starting with these holidays, there are three areas I am going to focus on:

  1. Fix my DSLR camera and discover what type of photography I like and take more photos.
  2. Be more physically active.
  3. Do more hikes/walks around Perth as well as being in nature more.

Here’s to the things that make you happy. I’ll keep you updated on how my three focus areas are going.

Few thoughts at the start of the end of the school year.

It’s the last week of school, and I’m exhausted. Like exhausted-to-the-bone exhausted and I’m not doing well emotionally.

My emotions have been out of whack and my demons have come out to taunt me because I’ve simply not have had the energy to deal with them healthily.

Constant negative thoughts – am I doing the right thing? Am I interesting to talk to or am I only good at talking logistics and planning things? Am I fun to be around or just a bore? – are swirling around my head.

Note, I am okay. This is just a downswing in my mental health. I am sharing this because a) context is important and b) I’ve had some realizations about full-time teaching.

If you have teacher friends, tell them that they are valued. This time of the year is taxing – emotionally, mentally and physically. If they are first years out, they are going to be exhausted. Invite them round for dinner, and some quiet boardgames. Let them know they are valued and important.

If you are a teacher, please, please make sure you schedule some self-care and self-love. Our patience and energy levels may be running out so it’s all the more reason to look after oneself. Make sure that in this season of busyness, you look after yourself.

Because that’s what I’m doing sitting at the beach, in the sun soaking up the sea breeze. In the midst of the crazy, end of year wrap up, I’m setting boundaries and looking after myself. It’s the first step to combatting these insecure, negative thoughts and a step towards a positive mental health this crazy season.

Love,

Sophia

Xx

Are you okay?

It’s R U Okay? Day today.

You will probably see people talking about whether or not they’re okay on social media. Having conversations about whether or not we’re okay is important. It starts a conversation, a moment of time to help people feel that they belong.

Let’s start conversations about mental health, let’s build connections with each other.

I once read somewhere that a problem shared is a problem halved. Sharing a problem starts with a conversation, a question, “Are you okay?”, that we shouldn’t be afraid to ask every day.

I know it’s hard to open up – sometimes it is because we don’t want to burden anyone with our troubles, other times it’s because we aren’t ready to communicate what is wrong.

In the murky days of my depression, that was how I felt. But my journey dealing with depression, and now anxiety, taught me this: I would never know what to say until I started to say “I’m not okay”.

Because I didn’t know all the answers, but by having conversations with people, letting them in, that’s when I started to have answers for dealing with what was wrong.

So, let people know you’re there for them. You may not need to say “are you okay?” It might be a simple “let me know if you need anything. I’m here for you”.

Let’s build a world, a community where a connection is strong among us. Let’s start conversations about how we truly are.

We are not alone in fighting our fights.

Yours,

Sophia

X

PS: Project Rockit released a really got resource in how to start a conversation. I will add it below, but before I do, I just wanted to say:

If you are struggling, feeling down or alone, know that you can just leave me a message and that I am here for you. You can also contact Lifeline (13 11 14), Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) or Headspace (1800 650 890).

Please open up to people. You are valuable, you are loved, and you are important.